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08.14.2016

Monday Mindset Motivation: "I'm Confident and Comfortable Doing ME"

The Monday Mindset Motivation series is a weekly read to get our week started off right through opening up and strengthening our minds. There are many things that will happen this week that are out of our control, but the one thing we always have control over is: our thoughts. When we focus on improving what’s going on inside of us, everything on the outside will fall into place. Today’s mindset motivation was inspired by the ever-so-popular hashtag #DoYouBooBoo
I seem to always give my friends the advice of “just do you” and I’m constantly promoting “do what makes you happy.” But… does anyone else seem to think it’s hard to “do you” in a world that’s telling you how to do life?!
Doing you isn’t always as simple as it seems. I mean, so many of us are still figuring out who we are, making “doing you” even more of a challenge. If I don’t know who I am, how am I supposed to do me?! Personally, I don’t ever think we figure out ourselves completely because we are constantly evolving.
I’ve gotten to a place where I feel really good “doing me” and it mostly came to be by going through a lot of times not feeling comfortable being me. Just because you’re not comfortable with who you are right now or confident in your own skin doesn’t mean that one day you won’t be. Like I said, every day, I feel more confident with who I am and “doing me,” but there are days and moments when I’m not always ask comfortable with that. This mindset motivation is a little bit of how I create the confidence in myself to go “do me.” I hope it helps lead you to leave with the mindset of “I’m confident and comfortable doing ME.”
Let’s start with… E X P E C T A T I O N S

Let them go! To sum it up… this is what I personally found makes us the most miserable: reality not meeting expectations. We set expectations for ourselves. Our parents, teachers, bosses, and friends set expectations for us. The world sets expectations for our lives. We hold an image in our minds of how our lives are supposed to be. When our reality matches that picture, we are happy. When our lives don’t pan out like the picture depicts, we feel sad.
Think about this…
What are you “supposed” to do after high school? I was taught you go to college. They say you have to go to college in order to become educated and get a good job.
Is that the expectation you were taught too??
nFirst off, there are a laundry list of people who prove this wrong. Secondly, now I ask the question, what defines a good job?! Is it the salary? I’ve had jobs where I earned a comfortable amount of money and I’ve had jobs where I didn’t earn a lot of money. Money makes some things easier but it doesn’t make you happier.
Hmmm.. is it prestige that makes a job a good job? Am I supposed to work my entire life to see “manager” in black ink on my business card? To, maybe, have a secretary or an assistant answer my phone calls or manage my calendar? Does that define having a good job??
I know a few of those “good” job holders who talk about what their real dream job is. So clearly, that definition doesn’t include fulfillment.
Remember when I lived life according to expectations…
I loved health and the sciences. I wanted to help people. The world’s expectations told me I needed a formal education followed by a 9-5 type of job. I could be a doctor, nurse, dentist, pharmacist. I tried those career paths. I even got into dental school. I was following that expectation blueprint. My family, friends and professors all congratulated me on my success, but I was not at all happy or excited about it.
Deciding not to go to dental school was the first time in my life where I really ever made a decision for myself that broke the norms of society and all the expectations both others and I set for myself.
Your expectation struggles may not be what your college major is or the type of  job your supposed to get. How about when you’re supposed to get married. Or, what type of mom you’re supposed to be. How you should act in situations. What you should wear or look like. Expectations are very real in our lives. They tend to shape everything we do on a daily basis as we live in accordance with those expectations.
Do you catch yourself comparing the reality of your life to the picture of how things should be in your head? Are you willing to let those expectations go?
When we let go of expectations, we are left to play by our own rules. This is exciting and scary all at the same time.
I remember when I was first got to college. I had this expectation in my head that, to be cool, I had to party on the weekends, drink in excess, stay up late, sleep in and all that. Most of you know how that went for me… I hated it. I didn’t like feeling icky in the morning. I felt like I was trying too hard. It was like that picture in my mind of how college was supposed to look was the only reason I was doing what I was doing.
When I let go of that, I was left with making my own rules. What do I do on the weekends now? I’m not going to lie… I spent a lot of weekends in by myself. Sometimes I enjoyed it. Sometimes I didn’t.
Side note… this is the time where I began blogging. Talk about destiny, huh?! I created the LG Community with this exact thought in mind… when it was Friday night and I was in my dorm, I could have only dreamed to have a community like this to turn to.
Yesterday, I posted THIS on Instagram.
It fits so perfectly with today’s mindset motivation because often, it’s the mind that keeps us in those expectations.
DON’T LET YOUR MIND RUN THE SHOW!
You know how crazy people talk about hearing voices in their head?!
Well, my head is constantly chatting to me. I know I’m crazy, but I hope it’s just LG craziness lol. Anyway… I’ve had to learn to stop letting the thoughts in my head distract me.
Do you know what voices I’m talking about? Gosh, I really hope I’m not digging myself into a crazy hole here hehe. The voices often sound like this….
Susie: see’s an article on Facebook of Girl lives 6-Figure NYC corporate job to scoop ice cream in Aruba and thinks “wouldn’t it be nice to break out of these corporate cubes and get away from this job I don’t even enjoy and do something I love. I’ve always love crafting. I wonder how I could make a career out of it?”
Voice in Susie’s Head: “You’re fooling yourself. You couldn’t do that. How would you pay your bills? You just bought that new car.”
That darn little voice keeps you locked into those expectations.
Like I said in that Instagram post, Anthony and I were watching a program where they said when we start feeling those negative emotions like confusion, overwhelm, stress, anger, etc., it’s an indication we are too much in our own minds, which is a focus on ourselves. The solution to that is to get out of your own way. Go do something with a focus outside of yourself.
THINK LESS. LIFE MORE. It’s the only way you’ll feel comfortable doing you.
Doing you is like taking baby steps. We all have to start with those little steps that seem meaningless, but before we know it, we’ve conquered something great.
I want you to think right now… what’s one little thing you could do today that would align with your soul’s desires?
Is there a park you’ve been wanting to stroll through?
How about a friend or family member you’ve been wanting to forgive?
A funky dress you’ve been dying to buy?
A blog you’ve been dreaming of starting?
…can you do it today? Or take a baby step in that direction??
If you do, congratulations, you’re on your way to confidently and comfortable doing you. If you keep this baby step up system up just think where you could be. One baby step over the course of 3-4 months in nearly 100 steps in the direction of doing you on your own terms.
Doesn’t seem so scary, does it?!
Take this mindset with you today as you make decisions. With every choice you make, celebrate in  your head “I am confident and comfortable doing me.”
 

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